Mastering the art of dirty talk is a skill few possess. If you are yet to smell a panty or if your body count is well in the 100s, we got you! Now you too can be an ace in dirty chat.
For some people, the act of intimacy begins before there is physical contact. There are quite a few people that consider dirty talk to be what starts their engine and gets them in gear to be intimate with their partners.
However, just because one person prefers it doesn't necessarily mean that both involved are good at it. Whether you're a professional when it comes to dirty talking or completely green at it, we are going to give you some tips to improve your dirty talking skills.
Continue reading to find out what you need to appear like a smooth talker to your partner.
1. Don't Be Nervous
One of the first things that keep people from talking dirty is being nervous and not wanting to be embarrassed when they try to talk that talk. The best part of engaging in dirty talk is that you don't have to be ashamed.
The trick to becoming more comfortable about the way you talk to each other is doing it more. The more you attempt dirty talk, the less likely you'll feel nervous when you do it.
2. Try Different Things to See What Your Partner Responds Too
When it comes to dirty talk, everything doesn't work for everybody. Therefore, its vital that you try different phrases and words out on your partner to gauge what exactly gets them excited.
You may find that raunchier words turn your partner on, while the use of more romantic and sensual words is what ignites your fire. Everybody doesn't react in the same way; therefore, it's essential that you understand each other and what turns each other on.
3. Cussing Isn't Off Limits
Yes, there are times that excessive cursing is seen as cringe-worthy. However, this doesn't pertain to the bedroom.
If you don't usually cuss, it may be a turn on for your partner to hear you saying words that you don't typically say. It shows that you've let your guard down and are completely embracing the act of talking dirty. Cursing also makes you seem less wholesome and more naughty in the intimate sense of the word.
4. Be Confident
The sexiest thing about a person is their ability to be confident even when they feel self-conscious. When your dirty talking, the only reason it will sound silly is to act self-conscious about saying the words.
Not only is confidence appealing to your partner, but it also shows that no matter what, you're doing you're sure of yourself while doing it.
5. Practice Makes Perfect
This may sound crazy. However, practice does make perfect. As stated when talking dirty, you may feel self-conscious, nervous, and embarrassed. The best way to become more confident is to practice alone before you test it out on your partner.
You could practice talking dirty while trying on different outfits that you're going to wear to enhance the intimate mood. The more you practice, the more your self-confidence will increase before the moment presents itself.
6. Get Creative With It
Don't stick to the phrases that you've heard on television or heard others say. Be creative when it comes to dirty talking to your partner.
This could mean coming up with nicknames for their body parts or having words that have secret meanings that only you two know. There's something sexy about having an inside word or secret phrase that alludes to wanting to get it on with your partner.
7. Laugh Together
In the beginning, when talking dirty is still new to your relationship, ensure that you know how to laugh at yourself. Being able to laugh during the times when you feel out of your element makes it easier to adjust to the act of talking dirty.
It brings lightness to the situation instead of making everything feel extremely severe. Being able to laugh will also take some of the stress off of your partner's shoulders in case they are feeling nervous about talking dirty to you and vice versa.
8. Don't Use the Same Words All the Time
After you find out that your partner responds positively to certain words, you need to interchange them. Using the same words all the time will slowly reduce the effect that they have on your partner.
Keep it fun and surprising by using new words and phrases whenever you attempt to dirty talk.
Dirty talk will spice things up and bring out your dormant sexual exploratory nature.
The Do Nots of Dirty Talk
When your dirty talking, there are somethings that you need to refrain from doing. The first thing is talking about or making fun of something your partner feels insecure about.
Not only will this make them feel more insecure, but they will also begin to shut down and not want to expose that intimate part of themselves anymore. Another thing that you should refrain from is negative name-calling. It's one thing to call your partner your baby or something dirtier than that, but to call them insulting words and phrases is uncalled for.
Name-calling can make moments that are supposed to be intimate become moments that your significant other is going to want to avoid. Name-calling is also a way of tearing someone's self-esteem down. And during intimate moments when they are at their most vulnerable is not the time to be negative.
Remember that dirty talk is a new area and adventure for both yourself and your partner, which means that you both are vulnerable in this new space. Therefore, you should ensure that you take the time to take care of each other's vulnerability when you're intimate.
When done right, dirty talk can help to deepen the level of intimacy that is between yourself and your partner.
Are You Dirty Talk Ready?
When you begin to dirty talk to your partner jump in all the way. By jumping in 100% gives you the push and confidence that you need to start that fire between you and your partner.
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